We met Ted at a local gathering of those in our D/s lifestyle. Through networking we found he was not only an ordained minister but he was pagan as well! And so began our conversations - and engagement with Ted as our officiant.
It was important to me to honor my Wiccan spirituality, incorporate our D/s lifestyle commitments, and ensure our guests were engaged both in understanding the significance of the components of the ceremony as well as in magikal workings.
Ted talked to us. He got to know us- our story, our background, our relationship dynamic and our vision. He took three different ceremonies- handfasting, ceremony of roses, and exchanging of wedding rings- and incorporated all three into a flawless ceremony that flowed perfectly. He worked with me to incorporate my requests for circle creation, opening, and magikal workings. He then brought himself and his own intuitive dialogue to bring it all together. He explained to our guests the significance of each step of the ceremony and our guests were engaged to be part of it- not just bystanders."
— Christina, Wedding, Handfasting, Collaring
- Felena, Silver and Mother of Pear Ring
- Chris, Silver and Malachite Ring
We spoke with a couple of other “lifestyle” JP’s, and while they were open to conducting the ceremony, none came close to what Ted offered. Ted listened, asked questions and met with us to discuss our game plan. All unions are unique, and ours was special to us. We wanted to incorporate Wicca, Ceremony of the Roses, blood letting (ok, a finger prick, but you know what I mean), white magic ritual and finally, flogging of my slave at the very end. Wow and yes, it was a mouthful and a handful, to be sure. Ted did his research ahead of time. We met to discuss when and how all these elements could be incorporated in our special day. Granted, the ceremony ended up taking a solid hour but with so much going on with all the different elements, it flew by in an instant.
I have to say, it was a beautiful ceremony, start to finish, and fortunately we were blessed with perfect fall weather for that day. Ted brought his own artifacts for the altar, which combined perfectly with items we brought ourselves. His partner, Solstice, took pictures of everything too, which we gladly paid for. Again, this is a service that Ted provided; a service to be compensated properly. They also made delicious honey treats for us, which were truly wonderful. Honestly, I just can’t say enough good things about that day. My slave bride and I already knew Ted casually from the local munch we all attend. We were fortunate enough to be informed he was an ordained minister, so we asked him if to be our officiant, and the rest is now history and memories for a lifetime. While we hired Ted to perform a service for us, it really felt like so much more, and we now consider Ted and his partner Solstice, to be friends who joined us at a most important day in our lives.
If you want an honest, thoughtful, genuine and respectable officiant to conduct your ceremony the way you want, then you should talk to Ted. It was already a memorable day, and Ted brought the right type of magic to make special.”
— Tony, Handfasting and Collaring Ceremony
- Marc, Silver and Turquoise Wedding Ring